Long distance friendships are maintained by messages more than anything else. When you haven't seen someone in months or years, the messages you send essentially are the friendship. Here is how to write the ones that make the distance feel smaller and remind her the friendship is still real.
The Message After Too Long Apart
The longer you go without speaking, the harder it gets to reach out — you feel like you need to explain the absence or apologize for it formally. You don't. The best message after a long gap is one that picks up honestly, without overthinking what came before. Just start where you actually are.
Messages for Friends You Have Not Seen in Too Long
"I know it's been too long. I've been thinking about you. How are you actually doing?"
"Saw something today that reminded me of you and I realized I haven't told you I miss you in a while. I miss you."
"I was going through old photos and you were everywhere in them. I hope you're well. I'd love to catch up properly."
"I don't have a reason for reaching out other than that you came into my head and I wanted you to know I still think of you."
"Too long. Are you okay? Are you happy? Tell me everything."
Reach Out First
In long distance friendships, someone always has to go first. It might as well be you. Send the message. Create a LoveName card with her name alongside it — small gestures after a long silence say: this friendship is still real to me and worth investing in.